The Politics of Dying

The Politics of Dying

Dying in DC?  Don’t get your hopes up just yet.

Many are not aware that the citizens of Washington DC do not enjoy the same representation in local and federal government that the 50 states enjoy. Because of that, these guys (who are not affected by the law and who do not have a relationship to the people of Washington DC) are able to exert their personal opinions and beliefs over the desires and due process of the city council and local government.

Presently, six states enjoy an end-of-life freedom having the option to obtain medical aid-in-dying if they qualify and their physicians are willing to support them.  Colorado recently enacted a Death with Dignity law by the choice of the people through referendum.  That measure passed by a 65% vote, reflecting what most polls see: about two-thirds of the voting population believe a qualified, dying patient should have the option to obtain medical-aid-in-dying from their physician if the doc is willing to support their request.

The attempt by federal government to intervene in Washington DC’s case may have farther-reaching implications.

Spoiler Alert:

One of the federal representatives attempting to block the law in Washington DC happens to be a physician whose personal beliefs are in opposition.  So he thinks he can exert that influence over the folks in Washington DC, even if their Washington DC physician has no problem supporting them.  Go figure.

Read more here: As Promised, Republicans On Capitol Hill Submit Resolutions To Block D.C. Death With Dignity

Palliative Medicine and Death with Dignity

Palliative Medicine and Death with Dignity Co-Mingle

I have a lot of sadness around writing this. I’ve decided to officially resign from the volunteer rolls of the hospice organization I’ve served with in my community.  This does not come as an easy decision. Truthfully, I’ve not been in a position to volunteer for some time now anyway.  More importantly, I’m often reminded and all too aware of how my name and my points of view are considered by some in palliative and hospice medicine to be too controversial.

I know that some in the hospice community believe I am “anti-hospice.” Thankfully, those who actually know me and my work also know that I am a strong proponent of palliative care, of which hospice is an integral part.

I find the highest value in palliative and hospice care.

In fact, some of the richest experiences I’ve ever had in my life have come from interacting with the dying and those who care for them. I don’t want to sound cliché, but some of my best friends are hospice nurses.

What troubles me is this: some hospice folks are unwilling to discuss certain dying matters.  And others want to but can’t, for fear of losing their jobs.  It seems to me that folks who work in hospice should feel fully informed on Death with Dignity laws, so they will know how to respond to patients who have questions.  Believe me, even in states where there is no law permitting end-of-life prescriptions, patients still ask about that.

The fact that over 90% of the patients who choose to pursue an end-of-life prescription are also enrolled in and receiving palliative care and hospice services up to the time of their deaths is clear evidence to me that all end of life options are important.

Not “either-or, but “both-and.”

I know these tools and the people who provide them can live and serve in harmony.  The average length of stay in Oregon hospice is over 40 days. Here in Maine, it’s about 18.  The Oregon statistic speaks to me of a vital, viable service being offered that does support quality of life and give needed time to people to feel as complete as possible in their lives before they die.  In my mind and my heart, the end objective is to meet the needs of the one who is dying in a purposeful, compassionate, and open-minded way that honors who they are and what has meant the most to them.

I believe in dialogue when there is controversy.

I’ve dearly enjoyed my time as a hospice volunteer and I will continue to promote hospice and palliative medicine as a means to achieve quality of life as long as possible.

I will also continue to devote my time and energy to bringing visibility and awareness to how Death with Dignity laws work and how they are in complete harmony with the compassionate efforts of all end-of-life workers and caregivers to support peace, comfort, and respect to patient choice.  I believe in discussing studied research on this issue.  And I believe this education is important.

Valerie Lovelace, Executive Director, It’s My Death

Grass Roots and Death Friendliness

Grass Roots and Death Friendliness

I am inspired by the ever-growing network of Maine’s death-conscious citizens. Whether it’s downsizing and getting one’s affairs in order, handling our own dead, Death Cafe discussions on every mortality topic under the sun, funeral consumer advocacy, or enthusiastic activism in politics, Maine’s mortality-friendly grass roots are spreading faster than dandelions or Creeping Charlie.

LD 347 An Act to Support Death with Dignity

LD 347 An Act to Support Death with Dignity

If there’s one thing Mainers are good at, it’s being independent.  That’s why we fly a flag in the state sporting the motto “Dirigo” or “I lead.”

Want to get involved?  Do you believe dying people should have independent choice?  Want to get conservative religion’s influence out of politics and out of your end-of-life?

See this simple, single page to get actively involved:

LD 347 Activism Kit

That’s it.  That’s all there is.  Get involved.  Your death may depend on it.

RIP, Becky Vanwormer

Maine Death with Dignity Advocate Dies

Rebecca Vanwormer was an avid supporter of the 2015 Maine Death with Dignity bill, LD1270.  She was a community activist in other ways, too; she brought Christmas back to Millinocket just before she died.  Her family and community lost a wonderful human being yesterday.

I felt privileged to meet and spend time with Becky in June.  She asked me to record her

testimony.  That’s a powerful thing when someone literally hands you the end of their life, wanting you to put it on tape.  She inspired me with her courage and raw honesty.  She wanted Maine lawmakers to understand that having a safe-guarded end-of-life option like Death with Dignity is really important, because dying is a personal, private process.  You know, sharing a personal story like that takes guts.  Sharing it publicly take a LOT of guts.

It’s been quite difficult for all of us to see her like this

I can’t begin to imagine her experience.  I received an email from Ken, Becky’s husband, a couple of days ago to let me know she was “declining rapidly.”  He wrote:

“She has had family and friends visiting her, although I’m not sure how much she knows as to what’s happening, and it’s been quite difficult for all of us to see her like this. She’s still been able to say hi and wave and occasionally say I love you and good-bye.”

“It’s been absolutely heart-breaking to see her go from this strong, beautiful, energetic, vibrant woman with her beautiful voice and amazing smile to just a shell of her former self in days, going through all the very things she feared most from the cancer that has taken over her body. Not being able to communicate her needs, to be totally helpless and have to have myself, her mom, and the hospice nurses wash her and change her, to be bed ridden, to have her skin feel like it’s on fire and itchy all over.”

“All the things she wanted to prevent if only Maine’s legislature had passed the aid-in-dying law. I hope her story will help convince more lawmakers to change their minds and pass this law so others with similar situations don’t have to suffer, both the dying and their loved ones.”

I’m so sorry, Ken.  I know Becky felt that her life and death would have greater meaning if the video helped others, especially our Maine lawmakers, understand more about aid-in-dying.  I’m sharing her testimony and her story, because people need to hear that.  I want people to know she understood that she was going to die, and she met that with a palpable sense of grace and acceptance.

IMD will continue educating in Maine to pass a safe law.  Rest in peace, Becky.

Click here for Rebecca’s testimony advocating for an Aid-in-Dying option in Maine

Click here for Becky’s Christmas Story: East Millinocket woman loses to cancer at 43

Thanks to my pal, Ned, over at YG2D for the use of this image. I think Becky would have liked it.
What’s All This Death with Dignity Talk About?

What’s All This Death with Dignity Talk About?

It’s My Death is involved in the “Death with Dignity” or patient self-directed end-of-life movement for the primary purpose of reshaping how we approach dying and end-of-life conversations. Loads of folks across the country are making inroads into the ‘difficulty’ of end-of-life conversations